Daniella Whyte

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7 Ways Good People Destroy Their Love Lives (365 Days of Spirited Living — DAY 332)


“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
— Carl Jung

Most of us don’t get the love we could have and even deserve because we do things to completely destroy how we get it. In a sense, we sabotage our own love lives by building walls instead of bridges, expecting too much, and not being willing to grow. Assumptions and expectations are a large part of what causes many relationships not to work; but it is also the things we consciously do such as being bitter, dishonesty, no communication, and pushing for the other person to be perfect that completely ruins it for us. Read more…

3 Complete Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 174)

3 Complete Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”
— Tony Robbins

Life is not about what could have been, what should have been, or what you would have done. Life is about what is. Why? Because what is is all that matters. If you find yourself hanging for dear life off a cliff, you should know two things. The first is that you’re hanging for dear life off a cliff. The second is that something good is about to happen, providing that is what you expect. Not giving in to self sabotage is really about refusing to expect anything less than what you really want to achieve and then going in that direction. Read more…

3 Clear Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 173)

3 Clear Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

“It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.”
— Erma Bombeck

Everything we want, say, or do begins with a thought or idea in our conscious, and sometimes, subconscious, mind. What we create in our minds will either make us a success or make us a failure. Many people often do not accomplish much in life because they listen to the negative voice in their mind. We impair our cognitive abilities when we allow self-defeating voices to invade our lives.  Read more…

3 Simple Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 172)

3 Simple Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

“When we can’t dream any longer we die.”
— Emma Goldman

We often fail at life not because we’re being hindered or even because we’re facing an obstacle. We often fail because we choose not to show up for the battle. We want something and don’t get it not because we’re not good enough or smart enough, but because we don’t fight long enough. Much of life is about not giving up. Showing up. Day in and day out. Sticking by the stuff. Getting it done. And when we don’t do this, we sabotage our own progress and possible success.

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3 Whole Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 171)

3 Whole Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

“Don’t complain; just work harder.”
— Randy Pausch

Pride will trip you up. Whining will make people hate you. Worrying will kill you. Yet we do these things anyway and somehow expect everything we ever wanted to just happen. If you took just an ounce of the energy and effort you put into worrying and complaining and applied it to fixing a problem, you’d be so much happier and achieve so much more. And arrogance too is a strategy of self-sabotage. The effort to be first, on the top, or big makes you last, at the bottom, and small. Read more…

3 Real Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 167)

3 Real Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

“The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
— Steven Furtick

The battles you face are not fueled by other people. Not by their words, their attitudes, or their behavior. The battles you face — most of them anyway — are fueled by the credence your mind gives to their legitimacy and importance. People who sabotage themselves see every situation as more crucial than it really is. And that view is overwhelming which leads to the inability to focus in the midst of distractions.  Read more…

3 Other Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 166)

3 Other Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

“Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realization that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around.”
— Richard Carlson

Self sabotage isn’t always obvious. Wanting something or wishing for something and going in the completely opposite direction is quite easy to do. This is because naturally, we resist change. Having a self sabotaging problem is different from having, let’s say, a drinking problem. A drinking problem is a drinking problem — you know what it is and why it is ruining you. But self-sabotage can be one problem or a wide array of problems that we allow to perpetually continue by our thoughts, attitude, and behavior. When we learn to recognize how we are sabotaging ourselves, we are more likely to do something about it.  Read more…

3 Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 164)

3 Ways We Sabotage Ourselves

“If a man does not know to what port he is steering, no wind is favorable to him.”
— Seneca

90% of the goals that could be reached in the world are never reached because the people who are supposed to reach them are too busy sabotaging themselves. They can’t see above the water in the bathtub. So they resort to listless, childish, unproductive behavior that is easy to do (like being lazy) but ultimately gets them nowhere close to where they want to be. It’s like running a race. You see the gold medal dangling in front of you, but instead of running toward it, you take a left detour. Read more…

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