Surf the Waves, Don’t Let the Waves Carry You (365 Days of Spirited Living — DAY 366)
“The only thing a person can ever really do is keep moving forward. Take that big leap forward without hesitation, without once looking back. Simply forget the past and forge toward the future.”
— Alyson Noel
In many respects, it is the habits we form that make us or break us. Success or failure fully depends on what we choose to do or not do in order to move forward. Success is subjectively determined, but it is not a matter of following a formula or heeding to a set routine.
The choices we make determine what kind of life we live. You can be a surfer and ride the waves on your own volition and take yourself where you want to go. Or you can let the waves carry you wherever they want and that’s usually going to be somewhere you wouldn’t go yourself.
Here are three ways to get over laziness and focus on making progress:
1. Do hard stuff first.
Or in the words of your mother, dinner first and then desert. Lazy people are very good at doing all the things that don’t really need to be done. But when it comes to hard stuff — 30-page essays or a 6-month long project — they find every excuse not to do it. That is because hard stuff is hard and generally, people don’t like to do hard things.
Here is what I know: The hardest things are hard because they are most often the things that are going to move the ball forward. And doing the hard thing often requires a leap into the unknown and most people want everything to be certain and perfect before they take the next step. Great things often don’t get done without risk and faith.
Instead of hiding in a corner and letting the hard stuff beat you over the head, take the bull by the horns and force yourself to do the hard stuff first. Your vacation will be more justified if you don’t shy away from challenges, make the hard stuff a priority, and get it done.
2. Believe in yourself.
The first step to achieving any goal is to believe that you can and to keep on believing you can despite the obstacles. Lazy people want other people to believe in them. They don’t take responsibility for their own faith and their own inner propeller to drive them forward. The thing about this is that it only works sometimes. Some people are simply laissez-faire and need an external force to do anything. Other people are simply lazy and no external force motivates them to succeed.
On the other hand, successful people have the belief on the inside that they can be successful or they can accomplish a goal. Many times, their belief is long-standing way before anyone else sees the vision or believes in the goal. You cannot expect other people to believe in something you are doing if you don’t believe in it first. Take some time and watch “Shark Tank”. You will see that the business owners asking for money to fund their projects are extremely passionate about what they’re doing and they believe in their product.
It is not selfish to believe in yourself. It is necessary in order to reach your goals and create and maintain long-lasting success. Have faith that you can and then you will.
3. Work for what you want.
Good things don’t usually happen on their own. Your dream house is not going to float down from the sky and ring the bell to your condo. Your bank account isn’t going to magically have six figures in it. You’re not just going to slow walk to class and sleep through half the lecture and automatically make straight A’s. Life doesn’t work this way for anyone in no part of the world. You have to work for what you want.
Lazy people do not believe in this idea. They want other people to give to them, help them, and basically take care of them. A side note to this is that when something goes wrong or they don’t like something they’re given, they can complain and blame someone else. Working for what you want requires you to take responsibility for what you do and don’t do. This means not waiting for other people to give you something because when everything is given to you, you usually don’t have many options.
If you want a good job, you’ve got to search for the right one and apply for the right one and be prepared to work. If you want more money, you have to put in the time and energy to improve yourself, learn more, and then work to make more. You can have almost anything you want in life so long as you are willing to work for it.
You can read all the books you want and attend all the conferences you want, but unless you put what you know into action, take risks, have faith, and work to reach your goals, everything you know is as if you never learned it. Action makes your intentions reality.
“Because if you take a risk, you just might find what you’re looking for.”
— Susane Colasanti