8 Ways To Keep Your Feet On the Ground When Everything Else Is Out of Control (365 Days of Spirited Living — DAY 364)
“You don’t have to control your thoughts; you just have to stop letting them control you.”
— Dan Millman
Several studies point to the fact that we are living in one of the most stressed and overworked generations. More people are busier than ever and sometimes feel as though they are not getting any closer to their goals. When everything seems to be spinning out of control, sticking to goals and not yielding to stress can feel like a tall order.
However, it really is possible to not let the stress and pressure of everyday life get to us. We can handle things, even the very hard stuff by developing habits that keep our feet on the ground and our mind focused on the big picture. Here are 8 ways to do that:
1. Be fully present. When everything around us seems to be out of control, it is easy to just stick our heads in the sand and pretend we don’t notice. However, when you step up to the moment as bad as it may be and own it in every way, you gain some power to not allow the situation to overwhelm you. We keep our feet on the ground not by running away, but by being fully present in the moment.
2. Get in control of your choices. Choice is the most powerful tool we have to gather our attention and focus and channel it into one direction. There are many external factors that are outside of our control, but there are also very many internal factors that are well within our scope of control. We have to be intentional in making sure we don’t just let things get out of control when we can actually do something about it.
3. Take a minute to yourself. On the other side of not sticking our heads in the sand is not jumping in to solve problems without having first thought through the problem and developed a solution. When everything seems to be going crazy, shut the door and take a few minute to analyze the situation and then take action or inform others of the action that should be taken. Sometimes, all you need is a few minutes to pull your thoughts together and implement a solution to an otherwise simple problem.
4. Develop a regimen and stick to it. Many times, everything around us seems to be falling apart simply because we don’t stick to our daily routine. We allow day-to-day circumstances determine what we do instead of having a pre-set agenda and sticking with that as much as you can. This does not mean you don’t tend to problems as they arise. It does mean that as much as possible, you don’t allow anything else to get in the way of accomplishing your goals for that day.
5. Practice self-control. Train yourself to control your reactions, facial expressions, language, emotions, and responses to situations. This does not mean you are passive or weak, but you regulate yourself so that you are in control of your actions and behavior especially when you need to be the most. The last thing you want to do is lose control of the one thing you can control and that is yourself.
6. Keep the big picture in front of you. Too often, a lot of time is lost focusing on minor issues or playing silly games that don’t get us anywhere in the long run. Many conflicts escalate into explosively violent outbursts because of one little thing someone said or did that was petty or unkind. Instead of wasting time and energy, focus on the big picture, on the goals that will actually get you somewhere.
7. Extend a helping hand to someone else. The time when everything is out of control is the perfect opportunity to step outside of your immediate surroundings and make time to help someone else reach their goals. The result is often a better perspective of our own situation. Helping someone else also gives you strength to handle your situation when you get back to it.
8. Learn to keep your help to yourself. There are times you can help and there are times when you should keep the help you could give to yourself. Sometimes, in order to retain your time and energy for more important projects, you have to say no and let other people solve their own problems. When you say no to something that is either unimportant or not meaningful for you to work on, you are freeing up time to work on something that is important and meaningful.
Developing good habits to keep your feet on the ground when everything is out of control will help you to stay focused, let go of stress, and reach your goals.
“If you’re presenting yourself with confidence, you can pull off pretty much anything.”
— Katy Perry