Accidents Don’t Happen (365 Days of Spirited Living — DAY 354)
“Down in their hearts, wise men know this truth: the only way to help yourself is to help others.”
— Elbert Hubbard
As human beings, we have a tendency to act as though our problems are the only problems in the world. We often make our issues much bigger than they really are simply because that is the only thing we can see at the present moment. When we are trapped in our own boxes of human self, we claw and scratch our way to hear only what we tell ourselves. And we miss out on all the insight and advice that could offer the solutions we need.
We do not control the events that happen in our lives but we do control how we react and respond to those events. There are no accidents, only necessary appointments by which we learn things that we would not have learned otherwise. Many times, we discover the solution to our problem, the answer to our question, not by dwelling on our own inner voice and direction. If you pay attention, you might be given the opportunity to really listen to someone else who needs to be heard.
We are social human beings, relational and interrelated in every way possible. We do not exist in isolation nor do we grow and learn in isolation. The human experience is made up of interpersonal and intrapersonal messages through which we learn what it means to be alive and to bear someone else’s burdens. When we allow ourselves to step outside of our very small shells of self and choose to reach out to others in need, we discover the right solution and hear the right message we’ve been waiting for all along.
Look back over your life and you will probably find times where your behavior or your words screamed for the attention of other people. You longed to be heard and understood. Instead of trying to get attention, next time, try to give your attention to someone else. Let yourself hear and understand the pains and problems of another human being. It is our sacred duty to lift up those around us whether we know them or not, look like them or not, speak like them or not, or come from the same race, ethnicity, religion, or socio-economic status.
For the soul that is connected to God and connected to others, there are no accidents in life. Everything happens in its divine order. The people closest to you and those who enter and exit your life like a revolving door are there for a reason. Instead of looking for a blessing, be a blessing to someone else. Instead of hands outstretched to receive, open your hands and your heart to give. Make others feel like they are special, loved, and valued and then you will find the help you seek. In helping others, many times, we help ourselves. And still many other times, we discover that we really don’t need any help at all. The weight on our heart subsides when we take care to love, lift, and live.
“We can do no great things, only small things with great love.”
— Mother Teresa