Why the Mentally Strong Never Do These Things (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 300)
“Life has no smooth road for any of us; and in the bracing atmosphere of a high aim the very roughness stimulates the climber to steadier steps, till the legend, over steep ways to the stars, fulfills itself.”
— W.C. Doane
The mind is like a muscle. The more you use it, the more nimble and flexible it becomes. Just like you have to move your body in order to stay fit, you must move your mind in order to keep your life in order. Mental toughness is what differentiates the men from the boys, the productive from the busy, and the best from the merely good.
Intelligence and knowledge are helpful in life. But commitment, diligence, and mental toughness are necessary and needed in order to reach your goals and be successful. A person who does not have mental toughness can have all the raw talent and skill in the world and not make it past point A whereas someone with mental toughness can have average talent and ability and completely succeed.
Amy Morin, bestselling author of “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do” said, “Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.”
It stands to reason then that the mind is more important than talent, ability, knowledge, physical expression, and intelligence. Mental toughness challenges every part of us to do better and be more. When we focus our attention on building the level of energy we use from our brain, we find ourselves better able to cope with and handle stress, pressure, and adversity; to persist in the face of obstacles; and to choose positive energy in the midst of crisis situations.
The biggest battle you will have to fight in life is the one going on in your mind. The greatest mountain you’ll have to climb is the one you create in your mind. What goes on in your mind determines whether you stay where you are or you get to where you want to go. Mental strength is much more than willpower; it’s hard word and choosing to devote time and energy to self improvement and positive progress.
Mental strength is not taught; it is cultivated. If you want to be mentally strong, here are some things to consider and apply to your life:
Mentally strong people take responsibility for their own lives; they never blame anyone else. In order to control your life, you must be in full control of your actions. Never blame someone else for the failure or the mistake or the pain because when you do, you unintentionally give away all your power to that person. If something happens, deal with the consequences, don’t make excuses, and always take responsibility.
When you blame, the person who is on the other end of that blame knows you are giving them power and so they can feel free to continue perpetuating whatever it is that went wrong. Choose to be positive and receive every situation in your life as an opportunity to grow and develop. Difficult people are not in control of you. If anything, they give you the knowledge and arm you with the realization of the kind of person you don’t want to be.
Mentally strong people don’t pass judgment before they gather all the facts. Without having all the facts before you, you can’t build a complete case and therefore, you can make an informed decision. Mentally weak people jump to conclusions, they react to every problem instead of taking necessary time to do the research and think through it. Be willing to learn about people and the specific situation before jumping to conclusions or making hasty decisions.
Not doing this reveals a serious flaw in character and judgment. Mentally strong people know that jumping to conclusions is a waste of time and in the end will only produce more problems needing solutions. Once you’ve gathered all your facts, take the time to go through it thoroughly and then make a decision that takes into consideration everyone involved and looks at the end goal.
Mentally strong people are unafraid of growth and change. It has been said that change is the only constant in life and that is still true. Change is unavoidable. It is how we deal with change that determines whether we grow or stay the same. Change almost never can be controlled. Many times, it engages us unexpectedly and demands that we conform. Change is not something of which to be afraid; it is something to embrace.
It is our responsibility to seek out new experiences and opportunities for these new experiences to grow. If we don’t seek ways to grow, it is likely we won’t grow and become into the better people we can be. Embracing change now helps us to welcome change in the future and accept it as a natural flow and process of life. This way, we are not surprised when change occurs. Even if it is painful for a time, we know that in the end it is a point that leads to happiness.
Mentally strong people are secure, tough, and fully aware of their own influence. They do not take themselves seriously, but they do take life seriously enough to live it productively and purposefully. They expect results from their efforts, just not immediately. They know who they are and because they have this knowledge, they are able to serve others with kindness. They know every person is fighting a difficult battle at some point in life and rely on their mental strength to have both tough skin and a tender heart to live and to help others do the same.
“The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be.”
— Horace Bushnell