3 Other Dangerous Habits to Dump Now (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 280)
“The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.”
— Samuel Johnson
One of the most powerful forces in our lives is habits. If you exercise for ninety minutes every morning before work and can’t fathom the thought of not feeling better about yourself afterwards, that’s a habit that will keep you healthy for a long time. If, however, you cram breakfast, lunch, and dinner into one massive meal near the end of the day and you can’t imagine eating three solid meals, that’s a habit that might be setting you up for drastically negative health consequences later on in life. The habits we form will be either good or bad. The commonality between the two is that once we develop a habit, it can be difficult to break it.
Here are 3 other dangerous habits you should dump now:
1. Trying to be like everybody else.
The journey to being like someone else is a futile pursuit that ends up in hurt feelings, decreased self-esteem, and disappointing outcomes. You damage no one but yourself when you spend your whole life trying to follow someone else, be like someone else, and do what someone else is doing exactly the way they are doing it. It’s an endless cycle that means nothing and gets you nowhere.
You don’t become like someone else. You can only become like yourself. You don’t arrive at a place that you think someone else has arrived at. You create the place you want to arrive. Everyone does. Trying to fit in, which so many people do, is a complete waste of time and the sooner you realize that, the faster you can start spending time working on yourself, your goals, your dreams, and your aspirations.
2. Thinking if we do nothing, nothing will happen.
Too many people think obsessively about the many things they don’t want to happen. Like how you don’t want to be late for work, or how you don’t want your kid to spill milk at the table first thing in the morning, or how you hope your spouse is in a better mood, or how you don’t want to get into a car accident, or how you hope the world doesn’t fall apart. In an attempt to avoid the stress that each of these situations could potentially bring, we add more stress to our lives by constantly expecting the worst to happen.
What you think about tends to expand. What you focus on becomes your reality. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want to happen or the problems you desperately want to avoid, start focusing on all the things you do want to happen in your life. Make an intentional effort to stop worrying, to stop stressing yourself out over the things you can’t control. And you will probably find the more you expect things to be better, the more they actually are.
3. The wall is a hard place to hit your head.
If you were to ask twenty random people on any random day if every situation in their lives turned out as they hoped or expected it to, every single one of them would tell you absolutely not. If you were to ask those same people if they’re still living life, every one of them would absolutely say yes. It’s a pretty difficult truth to reckon with that life doesn’t turn out the way we expect it to. Some relationships don’t work. Some people aren’t meant to be in our lives. Some places we’re not supposed to stay. Other places we’re not supposed to go. Situations happen and we have no control over the chain of events. That’s life.
Is that bad? No. As the days go by, we must not continue to strive towards old dreams, goals, and aspirations that are clearly not for us. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t fight for the things that matter. But we should be discerning and stop to reevaluate our lives and position at any given time and decide whether what we’re doing and striving for is worth our present beliefs, goals, mission, and values. Think about what you want, where you want to go, who you want to be with, and how you want to do it and let that burning desire drive you. Stop being hard on yourself and beating yourself up because some things don’t happen the way you want.
“We become what we repeatedly do.”
— Sean Covey