3 More Dangerous Habits to Dump Now (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 279)
“A change in bad habits leads to a change in life.”
I wish I could change my bad habits in one single day. However, habits that have been developed over time must also change over time. I don’t advocate quick fixes. They rarely work. I do however advocate making definite and immediate choices that will produce changes in habit over the long term.
If you want to lose weight, you must first decide that is what you want. Then your decision will help to create the motivation to develop and stick with habits that will help you achieve your goal. Habits don’t change overnight, especially bad ones; they change over time.
Here are 3 more dangerous habits you should choose to dump now:
1. Engaging in toxic relationships.
Some people you can work things out with. But some people you just can’t. And you shouldn’t waste your energy trying to reason with them or fix them. Some relationships are worth fighting for. But some relationships cannot be fixed. And you shouldn’t waste your time trying to fix them. People who have the hardest time emotionally dealing with this fact don’t easily break away and detach themselves from toxic relationships even though they know it isn’t worth fixing or trying to save.
Staying in a toxic relationship becomes a habit when you stick with the person living under a false expectation of change. Making the decision to finally remove someone out of your life might be hard, but if they’re doing you no good, why keep them around. Hard decisions like this build character, backbone, and strength. If you can make this one tough decision, then you’re likely to make many necessary ones later on in life.
2. Creating excuses that really look like lies.
There is really no such thing as being too tired, too old, too young, too late, not enough time, not enough energy, not enough resources, not enough money, and not enough motivation. These and many other statements like it are just excuses people create when they lack the necessary inner motivation and willpower to do what they need to do. Excuses are weapons we all use, however conveniently, when we don’t have a better answer to give.
For some people, excuse making comes as second nature. They’ve given so many excuses throughout life that anything other than an excuse is abnormal. You shouldn’t allow yourself permission to give excuses. Failure, or at least, disappointment are the results of excuses. People who sit around and wait for the world to change do one of two things: complain that it’s not changing fast enough or realize that they can be part of the change they seek.
3. Cradling ourselves in comfort.
Nearly everybody has a part of them that is curious and leans to adventure and innovation. But too many of us don’t tap into that because adventure pushes us out of our comfort zone. It leads us away from our familiar surroundings and environment and forces us to step out into the unknown. Credit has to be given to the unknown because this is where discoveries are made, ideas are developed, and theories are implemented. Comfort could be the prime suspect for why young adults fail to launch, parents dread an empty nest, and people stay stuck in jobs they hate around people they don’t like.
Even situations we deem as terrible can become so familiar that we just stay right there. Comfort produces more of the same. While it is okay to have an element of comfort in your life, you need to be careful that it does not put a lock on your dreams and goals. Your dream job or dream school may require you to move to a new state. Your new location will require you to make new friends. Your new friends may help you get adjusted to your new life. Making adjustments and transitions are the stuff real life is made of. You must learn to function when change is apparent. Change isn’t always comfortable but if you just step into it, you’ll find more of what you’re looking for.
“Change might not be fast and it isn’t always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.”
— Charles Duhigg