At Rock Bottom? Remember 3 Other Things (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 267)
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”
— J.K. Rowling
Life can make you feel like you’re sinking. You’re just falling and falling, drifting and drifting, with no grip or grasp of anything. Suddenly, you hit rock bottom and you realize two things. First, it can’t get any worse than what it is. And second, the only way to get out is by going up. While other factors may have contributed to where you are right now, you are completely responsible for what you choose to do with the rocks you’re sitting on — just sit there or build a ladder and climb out.
Here are 3 things to remind yourself of when you hit rock bottom:
1. Experiment with something new.
Sometimes when you’re in a situation where you feel stuck, the best thing you can do is try to do something you’ve never done before. Your spot at the bottom, however, you got there, is the best time to experiment with something new. If you’ve always done it one way, try another way. It is a different way of thinking that has helped people move from failure to success, rock bottom all the way to the top.
Take the time to cultivate new interests and interact with new people. Engage with new ways of thinking. Read books and blogs. Listen to music. You’ll be surprised the commonality you will find with other human beings by listening to lyrics, not just the sound. Look in new areas that you have never looked before. Allowing yourself to be exposed to different points of view can help you find the clarity you need. It can also help you to remember that some of the best things emerge out of the worst situations. Every new thing you learn, every difficult situation you encounter holds the power to change your life if you let.
2. Spend time talking and listening to the right people.
There are some people who get into tough situations and they tend to shut everybody out, even those who are genuinely trying to help them. Then, there are other people who get into difficult situations and they tend to tell everybody about it, including people who don’t need to know and who can’t help them. You need to find the one person or the few people who you can talk to, who will inspire you, and who can help you in a non-judgmental way.
Spend time with the people who will uplift you and encourage you. Reliable, trustworthy friends are rare and if you have some in your life, it is an opportunity to be both grateful and develop good relations. Words of sincere encouragement from people who you trust and who love you are important when you’re at rock bottom. Avoid people who are emotionally involved in your situation as they don’t have the ability to be objective. Certainly avoid negative people as they will prevent you from breaking free of your situation and taking the time necessary to process, develop, and grow.
3. Believe that something good will happen.
Life at rock bottom is difficult, even frustrating and heartbreaking. There will be very many days that you are going to feel helpless and hopeless. But you can pull through if you believe that good things will eventually come. Amazing things are often wrapped in dusty wrapping paper. No bows. No bright colors. No words. No frills. It takes more courage to doubt than it does to have faith. It takes more faith to believe in nothing than it does to believe in something.
When you’re going through what is seemingly the worst day of your life, choose to believe that a better day will follow. It won’t happen immediately — certainly not as quickly as we would like. But you’ll never know what the best is until you get through the worst. Rid yourself of the idea that things will never improve. Eliminate all internal monologue that says you’ll never make it. Understand that very many people have found themselves at the bottom at some point in their lives just like you, but somehow they made it through. The first step to getting anywhere is to believe you can.
“Sometimes, you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand back up taller than you ever were.”