6 Things to Seriously Stop Expecting from Yourself (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 244)
“Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control, but don’t.”
— Steve Maraboli
We all hold to the belief that we must achieve something great in life. We should. Life would be worthless if we sat around doing nothing at all to make a difference in the place we have been blessed to occupy. But sometimes in our attempt to achieve, we place too many expectations on ourselves and fail in our pursuit. We allow our expectations to set us up for disappointment. Most of these expectations are self-imposed thus leaving us with the choice to carry them as weights or release ourselves from their chains. Imagination can be a dangerous thing. When we stop imagining ourselves to be who we are not, we make room to learn, grow, and achieve.
Here are 6 things to stop expecting from yourself so you can make progress in life:
1. Stop expecting yourself to be perfect.
Perfection — the perfect house, the perfect marriage, the perfect career, the perfect school, the perfect exercise routine, the perfect meals, the perfect weight, the perfect cause, the perfect you — it seriously does not exist. You are the way you are for a reason. While you should improve in areas that you have control over, there are just some things that you cannot change. The pressure to be perfect destroys self-esteem and ruins confidence.
2. Stop expecting yourself to run the world.
No matter how great you think you are, you will never be able to be in charge of the universe. Beyonce might be a queen who can run her own kingdom, but even she can’t run the whole world. You are responsible for the life you live only, not how other people choose to live their lives. Running one’s self and one’s own micro world is enough work to keep anybody busy.
3. Stop expecting brilliant behavior from other people.
We all have these expectations. We want our friends, family, and co-workers to respond and react to us in a certain way. We want people to treat us with perfect kindness and genuine concern. But let’s just be honest, normally, this isn’t how people behave. And when they don’t it is our responsibility not to let our emotions of disappointment and anger get the best of us. You cannot control the behavior of other people, only the behavior you choose to display.
4. Stop expecting success the first time around.
We have morphed into a society of impatient and vacated souls who quit the first time something doesn’t go well. The key to mastery of anything is to fail at it dozens of times before getting it right. Stop thinking everything you touch will magically turn into gold. It may turn into dust first and then after several tries out pops gold. If things worked the first time around everybody would be doing a whole lot more. But they don’t and so you must expect that and keep trying.
5. Stop expecting excuses to save your life.
You know, we can give some really great, legitimate excuses when we want to. And some people will actually believe us and even sympathize with us. But here’s the deal, excuses will never save your life. They just won’t on any given day. Most times, in fact, all the time, if you don’t do the work, nothing is going to happen. If you don’t study, you won’t pass the test. If you don’t complete objectives, you’ll likely lose your job. No excuse is worth delaying your dreams.
6. Stop expecting yourself to be powerful.
We all want to be supermen and superwomen, just juggling a thousand different things perfectly in our brains without breaking a sweat. We’re the best at everything and we always make things happen. Well, that’s not true. You are sometimes weak and faulty not because you’re a bad person, but because you’re human. Stop trying to impress yourself and certainly forget about impressing other people. Do the best you can and it will all work out.
“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.”
— Alan Watts