3 Simple Things To Remember When Problems Persist (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 230)
“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.”
“If it ain’t one thing, it’s another.” We all have those days, perhaps even entire weeks and months, when it seems as though problems face us at every corner they can find. At work. At school. At home. At church. They threaten to pull us by the nape of our necks into a spiral of one thing after another. When everything seems to be going wrong, we may be caught off guard. These times can blindside us and cause us to neglect to realize the many things that are going so well in our lives. It might not be easy or a happy occasion when problems persist in our lives, but there are better ways to get through these times than whining and complaining about them.
Here are three things to remember when problems seem to persist and you’d rather not go through the experience:
1. Someone else’s negativity is their own problem.
When negativity is all around you, make the choice to be positive. It is easier to allow the attitudes and words of other people to bring you down to a level that is less than your best. But when you make an intentional choice, it soon becomes less of an effort to maintain an enthusiastic and positive outlook and focus. When problems seem to persist at every angle and direction, you can choose to be bigger than the situation or the person and allow light and love to flow through your life.
When other people treat you poorly, don’t take it out on them or seek to get revenge in some way. Instead, choose not to let bitterness get the best of you and change you into a person you don’t want to be — like them. Even if it is personal, you can’t take things personally. People don’t often treat you in a bad way because you did something to them. They do so because of themselves — how they feel or what they think at the moment.
2. You can be resilient in tough situations.
Problems show us that there are solutions. Obstacles tend to prove to us that we are stronger than we think. Difficulties and troubles that we face make us believe that we can overcome more than we give ourselves credit for. Life will force us to choose between being resilient and crouching back into a corner out of fear. Most people choose to drop to their knees in fear and surrender to their situation. They retreat instead of putting up a fight.
The ability to recover quickly from difficulties and bounce back after sudden defeat does not come to us automatically. We develop resilience by facing situations that force us to be tough. We become strong by actually being strong. It’s kind of like how our brain becomes stronger the more we use. The more adversity you face, the more you realize how strong you really are. Rather than letting failure overcome you and hinder your resolve, find a way to rise above your situation and conquer it.
3. Change because you can do something about your situation.
We can’t avoid all problems. And some things will come into our lives that will have to work themselves out on their own. But when you see yourself in a situation where you can change the outcome, by all means, make the change. We have more control over our lives than we give ourselves credit for. It is the people who capitalize on that control who make the best outcome of their lives. Make the changes that develop you into a better person and create a brighter future.
Change is more painful than any problem you will face. It is a more difficult mountain to climb than any real obstacle in life. And the reason why many people don’t change is precisely because it is so hard and often takes a long time to see results. You only get to live once. This is it. This is the only chance we get to make our lives into what we were born to be. Great strength comes from being willing to step up, make the changes, and do something about the problems that we face.
“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.’”
— Joel Osteen