3 Things To Remember When Problems Persist (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 226)
“Life always gives us another chance: It’s called ‘to move on.’”
— Ana Claudia Antunes
Not long ago, I was sitting in a hospital bed tied to a machine that was transmitting blood into my body, waiting for test results to return, and being prepped for emergency surgery to remove tumors that up until that point I didn’t know I had. I had no serious health problems until that point. But I felt strangely aware of the reality of my existence and how blessed I was to be alive. Over the course of several days, as I was being wheeled from floor to floor myself, I watched other patients being wheeled and beds being rolled. None of these patients expected to go through whatever they were dealing with. But here we all were with something in common: experiencing the fragility and beauty of life at the same time.
Here are three things to remember when problems seem to persist and you’d rather not go through the experience:
1. Pain is a necessary part of becoming who we are.
Sometimes life hands us a bad apple just to see what we will do with. Life closes doors while at other times it will open them. A closed door means it is time to move on. And most of us won’t move on unless some level of pain is induced to force us in that direction. When problems and troubles persist in your life, remind yourself that the pain is necessary to learn and to grow.
Many times, pain is wasted because lessons go unlearned and growth is stunted by our thoughts and actions. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re a failure or that you’ll never make it. You will. Every great success has been preceded by some epic failure. It comes with the territory. There is pain that hurts and then there is pain so great that it forces us to change. Both types of pain are necessary for us to become who we are.
2. Just roll with life.
My grandmother wrote in my dad’s yearbook when he graduated from high school, “just roll with the punches.” Life is going to happen and even many of the things we don’t like or appreciate happen for a reason. It is important that we don’t focus so much on the fact that we don’t want something to happen to the neglect of what is happening and how it can help us or teach us in some way.
When life happens, and it will, learn to roll with it. Take what it hands out and spin it to your advantage. If you’re made to wait for a dream to be realized or have to reach a goal through a different route than you originally intended, just go with it. When we roll with life instead of resisting life, we find that everything eventually comes together in time, not always immediately, but eventually.
3. When you’re going through, don’t stop; keep going.
Winston Churchill said it best, “if you’re going through hell, keep going.” Don’t stop in the middle of your problem. Don’t give up when the pain is at its greatest pressure point. The best lessons are learned at the worst times. The greatest victories are won after the most difficult battles. There will be times when it seems as though everything to falling apart. And you will feel like you are getting nowhere in life, but you are.
Don’t get stuck in a rut. Where you are now is not the end of the road or the end of the story. If you give up now, you’ll never find out what lies up ahead. When you feel like stopping, remind yourself that you’ll only know how strong you are if you keep going. Sometimes the worst precedes the very best. Success follows defeat and victory is the result of life’s greatest battles.
“If you are busy focusing on the falling bricks, you will never realize that they are truly stepping stones you need to cross over to the next phase of your life.”
— Kemi Sogunle