Using ‘Not Good Enough’ to Your Advantage (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 215)
“If you don’t kill your voices, they will kill you.”
— Jon Acuff
The hardest part of anything is usually the first thing. The first time a runner starts out, it’s usually painful. But then if the runner consistently runs every day or several times a week, gradually it becomes easier. The same thing goes for anything in life. The first action you take on any new goal, the first item you attempt to do on your project list, and the first step you take on any journey will always be the hardest.
Once you get into it, you will find your rhythm. A runner finds his jogging pace not by thinking about running, but by actually taking action. A writer or singer finds her voice not by thinking about the complexities of the craft, but by turning time and energy into positive action. When you get your groove, you find that you’re not even thinking about how difficult it was to get started. You’re just moving forward and getting it done.
A lot of times, the voice in our heads attempt to hold us back by telling us that we’re ‘not good enough’. Or that we’re ‘not smart enough’, or ’not educated enough’, or ‘not beautiful enough’. Every time that little voice pops its head up on the inside, it creates a certain level of fear that causes us not to attempt positive and good actions that we know we should take. When they little voice starts talking, instead of listening to it, we should harness its negative energy and use it to our advantage to push ourselves harder and further than before.
No matter what it is, from getting in shape to passing a statistics class to learning a new language, the idea of doing something new is daunting at first. But you must remember that everything you see around you was once new. In fact, it was just a possibility before it became a reality. And things become reality when people overcome the fear of doing something new and take action to create something that never was.
The voice in your head that tells you negative things about yourself can keep you back from ever trying. When fear controls the mind, nothing worthwhile gets done. The truth is, a failed attempt as something new will not haunt you half as much as an attempt never made will. Failure is not about failing to reach a goal. It is more about having no goals to reach. Fear is so paralyzing that it can cause you not to set goals and not to pursue those goals even if they are set.
When you feel fear cropping up inside of you or that voice in your head starts to make you doubt yourself and your abilities, choose to pull all that negative energy together into a collective whole and use it to achieve your dreams. Instead of succumbing to the unnerving feeling that something is going to go terribly wrong, intentionally tell yourself that you must get started because you’ll never what the result might be until you actually begin. Life doesn’t require that you do magic tricks, but the very least you can do is try — make an effort to achieve.
“Trust that little voice in your head that says ‘wouldn’t it be interesting if…’; and then do it.”
— Duane Michals