3 Things to Help You Make Big Changes (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 208)
“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”
— Albert Einstein
Change is difficult. It’s even more difficult when the change involves something life-altering. The process of change can be risky, costly, and sometimes, downright painful. But positive change often brings with it some good for our own lives and for the people around us.
Even when change seems to be beneficial for us, it can still be tough. We worry about the end result or if there will be any result at all. We wonder if we’re making the right decision, taking the right step, following the proper path or course of action.
Sometimes, we may wish we had more information or insight into the unknown and unseen. When we feel stuck, we have a tendency to stay stuck even though being stuck is uncomfortable, it can also be familiar. For some of us, we can’t tell the difference.
Well, how do we get past fear and make the big changes in life? Here are three things that can help you:
1. Ask yourself, what is the worst possible thing that could happen?
Most of our fears and perceived inabilities are created in our own minds. They don’t exist in reality but to us they are real because we have created them to be so. When you really think about your situation or the big change you know you need to make, you will find out that there are very few things standing in your way. An obstacle isn’t really an obstacle. Risk is low maintenance if you know you can recover. Once you get in your head that the worst possible thing is really nothing compared to a good outcome, you’ll be more inclined to make the change.
2. The journey is equally as important as the destination.
We live in a society that is focused on results more than objectives. Success is increasingly defined by how much you earn, where you live, what you wear, and who you hang around instead of what you have learned. Failure therefore is looked upon as a bypass instead of a highway. We worry that we won’t finish and so we never start. It is okay if you change plans midstream so long as it is taking you in the right direction. Neither failure or success is a destination. It is a journey, a process, and what you do in the process is what counts.
3. Start with what you have, where you are.
All good things take time. People don’t magically come out of womb walking and talking. Mount Everest can’t be climbed in one step. You likely won’t get your dream job straight out of college. The thing isn’t to get everything you want perfectly right now, but to be willing to start with what you have where you are. You won’t reach your goals in one sweep; it takes several sweeps to make the cut. All you need to do is take one step at a time. Improve wherever necessary and be prepared for when the right opportunity comes. In the meantime, take every opportunity you can right now.
“Nothing is so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change.”
— Mary Shelley