3 Complete Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 174)
“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”
— Tony Robbins
Life is not about what could have been, what should have been, or what you would have done. Life is about what is. Why? Because what is is all that matters. If you find yourself hanging for dear life off a cliff, you should know two things. The first is that you’re hanging for dear life off a cliff. The second is that something good is about to happen, providing that is what you expect. Not giving in to self sabotage is really about refusing to expect anything less than what you really want to achieve and then going in that direction.
Here are three ways we often sabotage ourselves:
1. You fear success. It is strange how we really want to be successful but we avoid the success we want all at the same time. If the thing you want to achieve causes you to be fearful, you’re only acting against yourself and reacting to your fear when you prevent yourself from making the achievement. You deserve to be successful. Don’t stand in your own way.
2. You fear failure. Always remember that success follows failure. If you can’t get through failure, you don’t want success bad enough. Fearing success and fearing failure is the height of self-sabotage. You can’t have one without the other. Failure is never the end of the road. It is a temporary path that you should expect to travel. Failure is the price we pay for fighting to realize our dreams.
3. You waste time pleasing everyone. You are responsible for no one’s happiness but yours. Everything will eventually fall into place just the way it should if you stop worrying about what other people think and quit wasting time trying to please people who don’t give two cents about what you or about what you are trying to accomplish. You are not a child. Stop trying to make mommy and daddy proud. You have a life to live. Live it. Please.
“I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate.”
— George Burns