3 Simple Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 172)
“When we can’t dream any longer we die.”
— Emma Goldman
We often fail at life not because we’re being hindered or even because we’re facing an obstacle. We often fail because we choose not to show up for the battle. We want something and don’t get it not because we’re not good enough or smart enough, but because we don’t fight long enough. Much of life is about not giving up. Showing up. Day in and day out. Sticking by the stuff. Getting it done. And when we don’t do this, we sabotage our own progress and possible success.
Here are three ways we often sabotage ourselves:
1. You are too quick to give up. In many cases, you will get farther ahead than most everyone else simply because they gave up and you did not. People tend to give up when things get difficult especially when the difficulty lasts for long periods of time. There are very few buildings that lack windows and doors. Likewise, there are very few problems that you cannot get through.
2. You fear you will lose everything. But really, what do you have to lose? Nothing. You have nothing at all to lose if you put your talents on display or toss your big idea to investors. If they say yes, give it all you got. If they say no, keep it moving. Not everyone is going to like you or your idea. If you expect that, you need to move to a fantasy world. The thing you should fear is not rejection, but never realizing your dreams.
3. You think you know everything. But you know deep down inside that you’re ignorant of a lot of things. Stop. Stop trying to fool people. Stop trying to make others think you are smarter than you really are. It hasn’t gotten you anywhere. So just stop. There is no shame in asking questions, doing your homework, retaking a test. The smartest people are not the ones with all the answers but the ones with the humility to ask questions and search for the right answers.
“There is no failure, remember, except in no longer trying. It is the courage to continue that counts.”
— Chris Bradford