3 Whole Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 171)
“Don’t complain; just work harder.”
— Randy Pausch
Pride will trip you up. Whining will make people hate you. Worrying will kill you. Yet we do these things anyway and somehow expect everything we ever wanted to just happen. If you took just an ounce of the energy and effort you put into worrying and complaining and applied it to fixing a problem, you’d be so much happier and achieve so much more. And arrogance too is a strategy of self-sabotage. The effort to be first, on the top, or big makes you last, at the bottom, and small.
Here are three ways we often sabotage ourselves:
1. You whine too much. Your problems are not unique to you. This is the great thing about humanity. We go through similar experiences. Someone else always has it worse than you do. So complaining. Stop grumbling. Stop wishing for things to be difference but doing absolutely nothing to make it happen. Get over yourself. Please.
2. You worry too much. Worrying is like sitting in a car without gas. So long as you sit there, the car isn’t going to move without the food it needs. Worrying doesn’t get you anywhere. In very many cases, the things you are worrying about are things you can fix yourself or get someone to help you. Work out your problems, don’t worry about them.
3. You are too proud. Do you have to sit close to the host when you’re invited to an event? Must you be the keynote speaker at every seminar you go to? Everyone doesn’t have to notice you. It isn’t necessary for you to have first dibs at everything and neither will you always get it. In fact, if you have no chill at all, you probably won’t. Nobody cares. Learn to take a back seat sometimes.
“Never tell your problems to anyone…20% don’t care and the other 80% are glad you have them.”
— Lou Holtz