3 New Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 169)
“Your value lies not in status or title, but in the roots of your character and depth of your compassion.”
— Mollie Marti
Many times, it isn’t any external force that is holding us back. It isn’t the voices of other people or doors that were slammed in our face or anything like that. Many times, it’s the voice in our head, our own actions (or inactions), our own decisions, our own thoughts that put the hammer down on things. It’s all us. And when we wrap our minds around that fact, we realize we have more power to change our situations than we ever realized.
Here are three ways we often sabotage ourselves:
1. You flaunt your past achievements. Okay, so you made good grades in high school. You played basketball, football, and baseball. You were the model child according to your parents. You wrote a book and actually got it published. You won a contest. So what? That all happened in the past and nobody really cares about what you did in the past. What you are doing today is what matters.
2. You try to make yourself look better than everyone else. You have better looks than Sheila. Your car is a newer model as opposed to Jace’s car that is ten years older. (They both do the same thing by the way.) You make more money than Heather. You have more friends than Kevin. Who cares? Spending time making yourself look better or sound as though you are better than someone else does not actually give you any brownie points. So cut it out.
3. You are waiting for the perfect job. And you’re also waiting for the perfect time, the perfect house, the perfect car, the perfect space to study, the perfect degree program, the perfect move, the perfect money, the perfect relationship, and on and on. There is no such thing as perfect anything. If you find something perfect, once you get your hands on it, it won’t be perfect anymore. So stop looking for perfect and look for what gives you meaning and fulfillment.
“You will be as much value to others as you have been to yourself.”