3 Little Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 168)
“And there’s also ‘To him that hath shall be given.’ After all, you must have a capacity to receive, or even omnipotence can’t give. Perhaps your own passion temporarily destroys the capacity.”
— C.S. Lewis
Many of us don’t get what we want — even things that have our names on it — because we are too busy resisting and rejecting. This is the simplest form of self-sabotage — not being open to anything, even good things. If you are to be blessed with anything, you have to at least have a hand open to receiving it. Our own vices set us back, hold us up, and stop us from embracing our ability to receive and sustain.
Here are three ways we often sabotage ourselves:
1. You believe you can’t work. Or won’t work. Or don’t want to work. But you want all this stuff and can’t get it. There is really no shortage of work. Work is available if you look for it or if you just create it. People who really want to work and make money will do so while the rest of us graduate from college and listen to some economics talking head on the news tell us there are no jobs. Seriously!
2. You lie to yourself. You say you want a well-defined and fulfilling purpose, a comfortably paying job, a good life, a sense of peace and meaning, harmonious relationships, a healthier body, less stress, and more joy. But so often, we are the fly on the outside of the building hitting our heads up against the glass window that stands between us and where we want to go. Lying is a form of game playing that bottlenecks our own progress.
3. You create problems. As opposed to creating solutions or opportunities. Creating problems is a strange sense of fun for some people. Just to feel like you’ve done something or to prove your power does not mean you have to entertain suffering. Of course, if you have created the problem there is a good chance you should have the solution.
“Resistance by definition is self-sabotage.”
— Steven Pressfield