3 Real Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 167)
“The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
— Steven Furtick
The battles you face are not fueled by other people. Not by their words, their attitudes, or their behavior. The battles you face — most of them anyway — are fueled by the credence your mind gives to their legitimacy and importance. People who sabotage themselves see every situation as more crucial than it really is. And that view is overwhelming which leads to the inability to focus in the midst of distractions.
Here are three ways we often sabotage ourselves:
1. We neglect today. Today is all we really have. Make that, this moment is really all we have. We don’t even have today; it’s just this very minute. Tomorrow is always in the very near future with no promise that we will actually get to see it. If you pay attention to the “now” moments and focus on doing something in it, when you lift your head up, tomorrow will be here and you can keep getting it right.
2. You compare everything about you to everything about someone else. We live in a vast, multidimensional world. There are billions of people on the planet who are more talented, more educated, and better than you at whatever you want to do. You don’t have to be better than EVERYBODY else, just be better than one other person — yourself.
3. You have your own best interests at heart. Well, so does everybody else. No matter how loving or kind someone is, people are always more aware of what they want and need than they are of what other people want and need. Most people will take as much from you and out of you as you are willing to let them get away with. Start extending love and kindness to others and you might see it come around to you every once in a while.
“I don’t count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. That is when I start counting, because then it really counts. That’s what makes you a champion.”
— Muhammad Ali