3 Other Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 166)
“Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realization that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around.”
— Richard Carlson
Self sabotage isn’t always obvious. Wanting something or wishing for something and going in the completely opposite direction is quite easy to do. This is because naturally, we resist change. Having a self sabotaging problem is different from having, let’s say, a drinking problem. A drinking problem is a drinking problem — you know what it is and why it is ruining you. But self-sabotage can be one problem or a wide array of problems that we allow to perpetually continue by our thoughts, attitude, and behavior. When we learn to recognize how we are sabotaging ourselves, we are more likely to do something about it.
Here are three ways we often sabotage ourselves:
1. You think everyone is out to get you. Sure, you might have one or two enemies. Or, better put, people who don’t want you to get ahead of them. But every single person in the world is not out to get you. Some people really do want to help you and can help you if you let them. No one gets to the top alone. So if you want to get there, let people in on your climb.
2. You dramatize every situation. The world is coming to an end, but more than likely, that’s not happening right this minute. If every little thing is a problem, imagine what every big thing is going to be. Broken glasses can be fixed, the badly written paper can be revised, the test can be retaken, the boyfriend or girlfriend who dumped you can be replaced with someone better, the white dress with the ketchup stain can be washed, the milk can be cleaned up. It’s just not that big of a deal.
3. You expect a cavalry. No one is obligated to rescue you, save you, help you, or do for you what you can very well do for yourself. So sorry. But it just isn’t going to happen. Most people spend their lives afraid of their environment, waiting for a little man with a lifejacket and tugboat to rescue them. Nowhere on the planet does this happen. If you make the mess, clean it up. If you want it that bad, work for it. You want a cavalry? You are it.
“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson