3 Explicit Signs You’re Doing Just Fine (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 158)
“The wise do not buy into other people’s perceptions of who they are and what they are capable of. Instead, they bypass a person’s public persona and see who they are in their highest expression. When you see actions taken with integrity, instead of words only, you will then know a soul’s worth.”
— Shannon L. Alder
Happy endings don’t just happen. It takes work — very hard work at that. If you want to do just fine in life and be happy and productive, you have to believe, pray, take risks, step out when there is no light around and not a soul on the street, and do the work to make it happen. Fairy tales don’t just happen either. There is a good deal of turmoil before the “happily ever after.”
Here are 3 signs you’re doing just fine:
1. You don’t search for the worst possible outcome. People who immediately think the apocalypse has come at every turn of events most certainly live miserable lives. Negativity cultivates more negativity. The worst has happened doesn’t mean it always has. In fact, in many cases, you’ll be pleasantly surprised that your car is not towed, your credit card is not stolen, and the sore in your right knee is not a blood clot. Pull away fast from negativity.
2. You aren’t a lone ranger in your own movie. You aren’t the center of attention. You may have written the script to your life but you are not the only character in it. You let other people play important roles and you give them generous credit. But you don’t let them control you or the direction of the movie. If you never learn to drop the script and let someone else be the star for a change, you’ll find yourself going in circles with no end in sight.
3. You don’t take everything as a personal affront. People who are really living their lives — primarily those who are happy and productive — do not take things personally. Yes, a driver can unintentionally cut you off on the highway. A friend can forget to call you back. A co-worker can go to lunch with another friend or alone. A family member can fail to let your three cats outside. People are people and it isn’t helpful to chalk up every action as intentional when it could very well not be the case.
“Misunderstandings often arise when we judge others’ intent by their behavior, while judging our behavior by our intent.”
— Steven Covey