3 Fresh Signs You’re Moving Forward (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 115)
“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering”
— Miguel Ruiz
Ernest Hemingway said, “Never confuse movement with action.” I think he was on to something. Many people exist in circular motion only. Very few people live in progressive motion. Circular motion is run-of-the-mill things we do each day. Get up. Get dressed. Go to work. Return home. Eat. Go to bed. Repeat. Progressive motion always involves action taken to reach some goal or achieve some dream. With progressive motion people, the circular is only a part of the day, not the main part. Making progress is, unfortunately, a rare accomplishment. It is painful which is why so few people engage in it. But when you’re progressing, there is no end in sight to the things you can do.
Here are three more signs you’re moving forward in life even if you don’t feel it:
1. When you stop taking things (especially yourself) so seriously. Every setback, every cross word spoken to us, every time someone treats us unkindly is only as big a deal as we choose to make it. You’ve realized that the best way to get through life is to not make everything a red alert disturbance. Some situations and people are better left in our rear-view mirror. You know you’re moving forward when you are able to accept yourself — flaws and all — and not believe that you were born to be perfect. By accepting this, you find yourself finding good in every situation, making the best out of poor relationships, laughing more, and enjoying the process…because you’ve chosen to.
2. When you stop taking things personally. This is a little different from taking things seriously. Most of the time, what people say and do around you often has nothing at all to do with you, it is a reflection of who they are. You know this and so you’ve learned to keep your head and your space clear from being run over by negative feelings stemming from what someone said or did. Taking things personally only gives the other person more power than they should be allowed to have. A colossal amount of freedom can be found when you take nothing personally. Part of that freedom is learning the Q-TIP rule: “quit taking it personally.”
3. When you start learning from your mistakes instead of repeating them. We all make mistakes. The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is that one learns from their mistakes and improves, the other keeps on making the same mistakes and expects things to change. You know that obsessing over past failures do no good to your psyche. Instead you channel your energy into learning the lessons that mistakes often bring. You know that mistakes are an opportunity for growth. Understanding this, you’ve realized that there are really no failures, only lessons.
“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
— Napoleon Hill