Stop Making Excuses (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 103)
(30 Things To Stop Spending Time On If You Want to Be Successful #12)
“BLA BLA BLA. This is what I hear when you tell me you can’t do something.”
Excuses. We all know about them. They are friends of convenience and nemeses of success. More than likely, we’ve made one or two in our lives. We can always find a reason why something can’t be done, why we won’t take action, or how something is not possible. Our reasons seem reasonable to us. We have incredible power to justify our actions and thoughts — to ourselves at least.
Excuses are not really reasons. They are invented rationalizations we create to defend our behavior and our negation of responsibility. In essence, we place blame for what is happening, what has happened, or what isn’t happening on someone or something else. When we pass the buck or the blame, we tell ourselves and others that we are living a life of convenience and not of full potential.
There are many reasons people make excuses. Everyone has a different reason. Some people fear success while others fear responsibility. Still other people fear change while many more believe they don’t have enough time. Some are sitting on the front porch waiting for inspiration. Others are in the bed thinking they are tired. Many more think they’re too old, too young, too short, too tall, not talented enough, not smart enough, and on and on we can go. Excuses are like lies. Eventually, they catch up with us.
When you make excuses, you’re only hurting yourself. Successful people know that regardless of how many excuses they make, it will never change the result. When things go wrong, successful people see it as an opportunity to solve problems, be creative, and overcome obstacles. Excuses have never completed a project or made a person successful. Even the most justified excuses are quickly put on the back burner to focus on what can be done instead of what can’t.
Unsuccessful people constantly spend their time and energy creating excuses instead of creating solutions. When we make excuses, we’re allowing ourselves to avoid a certain task or behavior — often a hard but necessary one. We accept the least amount of challenge and motivation possible from ourselves. Even if all the excuses we make are true and reasonable, it won’t improve the results. Never make excuses for any outcome.
Excuses are a means of sabotage. And when we give in to excuses, we only sabotage ourselves and our own success. How do you feel after you do something you didn’t feel like doing such as exercise? You feel great. And you feel that way because our brains and our hearts know that we have to challenge ourselves in some way. If we avoid the challenge, we make up things to justify our actions, or lack thereof.
So help yourself. Change all of your excuses to positive statements. Tell yourself that you do have enough time. Believe that you do have enough money. Refuse to give in to the I’m-not-this or I-don’t-have that syndrome. Everything you want to happen can happen if you stop making excuses and get to work. To get from where you are to where you want to be, you must avoid the easy route of making excuses and focus on the tasks before you until you get to your destination.
Life is simple. Let’s make sure we don’t complicate it. The sooner you decide to stop making excuses, the happier and more fulfilled you will be. Take control of your habits and your mind. Refuse to allow yourself to give in to making up things that you know will not benefit you. If you feel yourself beginning to make excuses, identify it as that. Identifying a problem is half the solution. It’s your life. You can decide to live with no excuses, no complaints, and no regrets.
“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”
— Benjamin Franklin