Stop Giving Up (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 95)
(30 Things To Stop Spending Time On If You Want to Be Successful #4)
“There is no failure except in no longer trying.”
— Elbert Hubbard
Life is too expensive to spend giving up. Yet many people who have it in their minds to make it big in the world do just that. They waste valuable time and energy throwing away perfectly good opportunities just because things don’t work the way they want them to. While it’s in their minds to be successful, it’s not in their hearts, and that’s why they never make it. When we can no longer see the goal in front of us, and see that our dreams are worth fighting for, we eventually die — not physically, but emotionally, mentally, intellectually, and spiritually.
When you face an unfortunate hardship in your life, how do you respond? When obstacles are set up in your path, what is your reaction? Do you whine, blame others, and pout about it? Or, do you pick yourself up, brush off the dust, and press on? Productive, successful people don’t give up. No matter how hard it is, they simply choose to stick with it. Sticking with things is a form of perseverance. The worst thing you can do is be aware of what you want and not at least try to get it.
Successful people commit themselves to reaching their final destination. No one gets there perfectly. Some people get their out of breath. Others get there by the skin of their teeth. But they get there. However slowly and embarrassingly — successful people get there. And if, for some reason, they don’t, they don’t allow impediments and roadblocks to prevent them from trying. You will never know how far you can go until you make an earnest attempt to get there.
Failure and disappointment are not excuses to give up and quit. It’s really permission to keep moving forward. When you encounter failure, it’s easy to drop everything, run to a corner, and cry. It might make you feel better for a little while, but it won’t permanently solve or fix anything. Success encompasses failure after failure, disappointment after disappointment. What many people don’t understand is that success would not be possible without failure.
Here’s how giving up works: you didn’t pass algebra in college so you give up and never graduate; you wrote your first book and publishers rejected it so you stop writing; you didn’t get the job promotion you expected so you quit working altogether; your first business venture was a flop so you never start anything else again; your relationships are always running haywire so you shut up and never make friends with anybody. On and on we can. Whatever it is, giving up boils down to this one thing: something didn’t work out the way you thought it should so you quit — you threw in the towel, turned off the lights, locked the doors, and headed to the nearest island — you gave up.
Just imagine what the world would be like if the people who created some of the most useful products we have today gave up when they failed. Coca-Cola sold only 25 bottles the first year they were in business, but they kept on going. Thomas Edison unsuccessfully attempted to invent the light bulb 1000 times before he got it right. What if he gave up at 999? J.K Rowling wrote the first book in the Harry Potter series and was rejected by 12 publishers before getting the green light. What if she quit after the tenth rejection letter? Colonel Sanders thought restaurant owners would love his fried chicken recipe. He went across the country trying to sell it and was turned down 1009 times. If he’d given up at the 1008th rejection, there would be no KFC today.
Nothing is impossible until you give up. When you quit trying, all bets are off. If you abandon your dreams, you’ll never discover what the possibilities could be. The one main thing that sets successful people apart from unsuccessful people is that successful people are willing to stick it out for as long as it takes. They don’t have a special gift of perseverance either. They simply choose to keep going and not give up. Not giving up is a skill you can learn, an attitude that you can develop.
The biggest challenge in life is to risk the embarrassment of failure. The second biggest challenge is to not let it keep you down. If you want what you say you want as bad as you say you want it, you will do whatever it takes to get it. When you want it bad enough, nothing or nobody can keep you back from getting it. You get the opportunity to live the life you want to live. There are people who don’t get the opportunities you get to have. Just decide that you are not going to quit. No matter what. Zero. Nada. Period. Not happening. End of story. The race in front of you is yours to win. You can give up; or you can grow up.
“It is the courage to continue that counts.”
— Chris Bradford