Stop Sitting on Your Attitude (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 94)
(30 Things To Stop Spending Time On If You Want to Be Successful #3)
“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.”
— Wayne Dyer
Attitude is everything. It affects every part of us — our thinking, our being, our emotions, our behavior, and our mentality. Our attitude also has an impact on the people around us, the situations we encounter, we problems we face, and the environment we find ourselves in. What we do and say, and the manner in which we act is a reflection of the attitude we have. We know this instinctively, but somehow, we really do not believe it.
Psychologist Carl Jung defined attitude in the book, Psychological Types, as a “readiness of the psyche to act or react in a certain way”. This definition denotes that we can choose the type of attitude we want to have. Negative actions and reactions are often automatic. If someone pushes us for no reason, our first instinct is to push them back. If we are in disagreement with someone and they start shouting, automatically, we start shouting back. If we can be readied to respond negatively, is it any wonder that we can choose a different approach.
Many times, situations of conflict escalate simply because we do not choose to display a better attitude than the other person. Projects often go undone because we do not choose to overcome procrastination. Yes, procrastination is not just an action, but an attitude. Relationships often fail because we don’t make time to nurture and maintain them. All of these things are matters of choice. And our attitude is a matter of choice as well.
We all want a happy life. Most of us know that it takes just as much energy to be negative as it does to be positive. But we can so easily be drawn to what is negative. For someone like me who embraces positivity, having a positive attitude all the time is not easy. But it really is possible to change your situation and even your life by getting off your attitude and changing your perspective. Merle Miller said, “Everyone has his burden. What counts is how you carry it.” It is the same way with life in general. We all have good days and bad days. It matters not so much your attitude on your good days (for we all can be happy and smiling when the sun is out). But how do you act on your bad days when things are not going so well?
You won’t get far in life if your situations determine how you act. A decision to look for the good in everything (and actually find it because it is there) will create a daily positive experience. An attitude that looks up instead of down, outward instead of inward, set on goals instead of just today, and confident instead of confused will bring more optimism into your life and help you to avoid succumbing to negative feelings and thoughts.
Irving Berlin said, “Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it.” We cannot change our past. We cannot change people. We cannot change things that were meant to happen. We cannot change the color of our skin, but we can change the look on our faces. We cannot change the family we are part of, but we can change our approach to life. We can be the masters of our attitudes. How we act and react is completely up to us. Our attitudes need a breath of fresh air and if we would simply get off them, some things in our lives might turn around for the better.
A positive attitude leads to success and happiness. A negative attitude leads to failure and depression. Making the decision to choose what attitude you’re going to have can change your life overnight. When the light is uncovered and is allowed to shine, it brightens up our space and our view of the world. It also radiates throughout our environment and to the people we are around. If a negative attitude is transmissible, a positive attitude is contagious.
A positive attitude will help you get down the road in life without regrets and guilt far more than a negative attitude ever will. It is our attitude toward life that will affect a successful outcome. Have you ever wondered how two people can look at the same thing and see two completely different things? Two people can go to an abandoned house. One can come away thinking the house is no use and should be demolished; the other can come away thinking of the possibilities of making over the house and putting a family inside. It’s not just that they are two different people, but it’s more that they have two different attitudes.
Having the right attitude can help you reach your goals and realize your dreams. It can increase your faith and belief that good things are up ahead. You will encounter less obstacles in life because you’ll learn to turn them into challenges. It gives you strength to press on instead of give up. It inspires you and in turn, empowers other. The right attitude will help you to see failure as a stepping stone to success and problems as blessings in disguise. You will begin to recognize opportunity and possibilities. You will be able to envision what you want to happen and then have the faith to make it so. Life will give back to you what you give out. Get off your attitude, choose to embrace positivity, and become the person you were meant to be.
“The greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”
— Martha Washington