3 More Ways to Know It’s Time for a Change (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 86)
“She believed she could, so she did.”
— R.S. Grey
Your life is not in the hands of another human being. Neither is it a puppet for your circumstances, your feelings, your job, or whether the coffee line was moving smoothly on any given morning. To really live takes a level of commitment. You can’t live by chance or accidentally. Rather than complain, blame others, or make excuses, be responsible for knowing when you need to make changes. Here are three more signs:
1. It may be time for a change if you are always trying to change situations and people out of your control and get upset when your attempts to change them fail. One of the happiest moments in life is the realization that you do not have the power to change anyone else except yourself. Situations that are out of our control are often that way to teach us that we need to have courage and let go.
In some cases, trying is a waste of time. it’s not fun to spend energy and time on trying to get someone else to be who you want them to be. And do not pass off your attempts to change them as you trying to motivate them or help them because that will most likely not work either. You can’t change other people. They have to change themselves. We all have things we can change about ourselves and time can be better channeled towards doing that.
2. It may be time for a change if you can’t wait until Friday, the weekend, or holidays to enjoy your life. I’ve discovered that waiting for a certain time to enjoy life, or to be happy, or to do something special erases all the anticipation and fun. If you love what you do, every day can really be exciting and enjoyable in some way even if you’re doing the same or similar things.
Stop waiting for summer to come, for the sun to shine, for love to find you, or for anything else. Right now is the moment you’ve been waiting for. If you treat every moment of every day as the best, you will learn to celebrate simple joys and small blessings. You can live a life you’re excited about seeing every morning, not just on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays, but every single day of the week.
3. It may be time for a change if you find yourself being jealous of other people and their success. Before you get jealous of other people and what they have or are doing, you’ve got to remember that you don’t know what they did in order to get there. It is like giving someone poison, wishing you were them, and then holding a pity party for yourself.
The success of others can easily remind us of past failures or our own current shortcomings. But jealousy is really a mirror that reflects our souls. It pushes us to realize we have qualities and traits that we should work on. And if we’re busy working on ourselves, the less time we’ll have to be jealous of someone else. Being anything less than happy for what someone is able to achieve will only block you from your own success and blessings. Living a life you love while focusing on your purpose, passion, and priorities will give you more joy that spinning your wheels trying to have what someone else has.
“Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.”