7 Ways to Be Amazingly Confident (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 85)
“When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.”
— Joe Namath
Confidence is something that every person should have in moderate doses. Too much confidence can make you come off as arrogant, cocky, and unable to recover from obstacles and setbacks. Too little of it, on the other hand, can cause you to avoid people and opportunities that would otherwise benefit you, make you yield to fear, and set you up to never achieve at your highest potential. Getting to the right level of confidence is a balance, but you can get there.
Here are 7 ways to develop amazing confidence in your life:
1. Don’t take things personally. What people say and do around you often has nothing at all to do with you, it is a reflection of who they are. A colossal amount of freedom can be found when you take nothing personally. Learn the rule of Q-TIP — quit taking it personally.
2. Be perfectly fine by yourself AND with your friends. When you know who you are and believe in what you do, you don’t mind going out with friends, but you’re also just as fine being by yourself. Being alone gives you a chance to plan, to think, and to discover new ideas.
3. Sometimes, you don’t have to say anything. Silence is one of the best answers when you find yourself in the middle of a conflict. Many times, you’ll regret the things you said without giving any thought to them. But you’ll almost never regret what you said as much as what you left unsaid.
4. Be willing to be different. You won’t have the opinions of other people to worry about if you realize how little they actually think about you. It is okay to discover your passions and let yourself be free to be you. Be bold. Stand out. be different.
5. Listen more and talk less. One of the signs that a person doesn’t have confidence is that they talk too much. Don’t wear a chip on your shoulder. Every interaction with another soul is an opportunity to learn. And we all can learn something interesting from each other.
6. You don’t always have to be right — because sometimes, you’ll just be wrong. At the first sign of trouble, the house of cards built by your ego is just waiting to come crashing down. A person who is always learning automatically assumes his knowledge is limited and he doesn’t know everything.
7. They applaud the success of others. Confident people don’t have to be jealous or make other people look bad. They give credit to team members, seek out ways to build up others, and genuinely focus on how to make the people around them feel valued.
“With confidence, you have won before you have started.”
— Marcus Garvey