When You Fail… (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 74)
“Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.”
— Jack Canfield
There are two things you should know about failure. First, you WILL fail at one point or another. Second, when you fail, it is not the end of the world. Failure is not a hope so, maybe, if proposition. It is guaranteed. Anyone who steps out to do anything, no matter how small it is, will experience failure. Those who ultimately succeed don’t let failure define them.
It’s similar to a child who is just learning to walk. How many times does he fall? More than once. Probably too many times to count. But does he stay in that fallen state? No. Eventually, he gets up and continues to learn the newly discovered skill of walking. He walks; He falls. He walks; He falls. He walks; He falls until he actually gets it and can walk without falling. Then, he discovers a new skill of running, and so on it goes.
This is a picture of what life is like for all of us. When you fail, do not stay in the failure. Don’t whine about or worry about. Anyone doing anything has to pass the test of failure at least once. Get up. Dust yourself off and do it again — this time, better. And if you fail then, get up, dust yourself off, and do it again until you eventually succeed. Learn from your mistakes and choose to not make them again. Someone once said, if you make the same mistake twice, it’s no longer a mistake; it’s a choice.
Learn from your failures. Avoid jumping blindly into anything new. It is not a crime to get a second opinion, or even a third, fourth, or fifth one. Look for more than one option to do what you need to do. Take risks, but calculate them first. Don’t trust everything you hear or believe everything you think. Understand that failure is guaranteed; success is a possibility. You’ll never know how successful you can be until you learn to overcome failure.
If you fail and quit, you’ll never be successful. If you fail and fail and fail and then give up, you’ll never see how good things could be. If you fail and fail and fail and fail and fail a thousand times, but you keep on trying, you’ll eventually succeed. The best way to overcome failure is through perseverance. The path to success is littered with persevering people. When you fail (because you will), don’t give up. Fail quickly and then refocus your energies on trying to make that something happen.
“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
— Og Mandino