Eliminate Negativity (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 61)
“The battle you are going through is not fueled by the words or actions of others; it is fueled by the mind that gives it importance.”
— Shannon L. Alder
It is inevitable that negativity exists all around us, but we don’t have to let it affect us. We can be consistently positive and optimistic while at the same time being a realist and practical. I don’t think we can remove every single bit of negativity from our lives, but I do believe that we can remove a large chunk of it. Eliminating negativity has nothing to do with actively trying to be more positive, but it has everything to do with intentionally removing things and people that suck the energy out of your life and waste your time.
Since it is counterproductive to spend all our time on simply eliminating the negative, let’s focus on producing the positive in our lives. You can start by spending time doing things that you love to do and that you were created to do. What better way to zap the bore out of life than by being productive and creative in your area of knowledge. This doesn’t mean that you don’t explore opportunities. In fact, you do so — often. However, we all should be a bit more picky about what we do and make sure that we enjoy doing it.
Learn to say no. No is one of the most powerful words you can incorporate into your daily vocabulary. You don’t have to do everything, or go out with every friend, or jump on every opportunity that comes around. Set goals for what you want to accomplish and focus, focus, focus. Answering yes to everything and everyone will only frustrate you and give you a negative outlook. Negativity only stunts creativity and limits your growth and potential.
Be aware of your thoughts. If we can overcome just letting our minds wander, we can be so much more confident, creative, and consistent. The mind can be a work station or a playground. It can be a colorful canvas or a blank slate. It is all up to us and what we choose to let it think. Negative thoughts are more often the result when we just let our minds wander. Analyze and categorize your thoughts into what is negative and what is positive. Elevate one and reduce the other.
Take care of your social media and your social relationships. If we cared for our social lives just as much as we cared for our bodies, we would have more wholesome conversations and more meaningful relationships. Social media can be a time waster or an important part of our progress. But it is what you choose to post on social media and choose to read from others that can make all the difference. Connect with people who you can learn from and to whom you can offer positive things to.
In all honesty, we live in a negative world. People are quick to blame the economy, bash the president, berate their boss, and so on. Everyone in the world can use some positive in their lives as we all attempt to deal with the negative forces that bombard us everyday. Stop complaining, stop making excuses, stop whining, stop focusing on what isn’t and what you don’t have. The world has enough of that. Lift yourself up and lift your world up. Focus on persevering, overcoming challenges, and helping the people around you along the way. It makes for a better world and a better life.
“People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance. And while they seem quite eager to feed you their negativity, please remember that sometimes the diet we need to be on is a spiritual and emotional one. Be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action.”
— Steve Maraboli