The Windshield and The Rear View Mirror (365 Days of Spirited Living – DAY 28)
“Holding on is believing that there’s a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.”
— Daphne Rose Kingma
When driving a vehicle, you know that it has a big windshield in front of you and a small rear view mirror on the side. These views are not in competition with each other and they do not mirror each other. But both views are necessary for effective and safe driving. The windshield helps you to see where you are going — the journey in front of you. The rear view mirror gives you a small glimpse of what is behind you to aid you along in your journey.
You would not be able to get to where you wish to go on the road without the small view behind you. The same thing goes for life. Many times, people attempt to dissolve their past and deny anything bad ever happened in order to live in the moment and be prepared for the future. This is an unfruitful way of living. The problem with doing this, is that your past — whatever it is and whoever is in it — will always be there, it will always be part of your life, and your state of denial will only keep holding you back.
The past wants to be recognized. You should honor it by acknowledging it and accepting it. It helped to make you who you are today. Only when we accept things as they were will we gain the strength and vision to move forward. When you acknowledge and accept your past, you take away its power to hinder or hold up your life. It’s not healthy to hold on to the past, but it is beneficial to love your past from a distance.
The purpose of the windshield is to keep you moving forward. The purpose of the rear view mirror is to help you make changes along your journey. Your past is not a stopping point; it is a starting point. It is a propeller for the rest of your journey. If you drive your life with the rear-view mirror in front of you, you will always be going backwards. Let the past be what it is and let the future be what it’s meant to be. What’s behind you is a lesson, a point of reference to take into consideration. It’s not an opportunity to go backwards, but permission to move forward.
“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”
— Steve Maraboli