What Makes Me Unique?
DEAR DANNI: All of my college buddies seem to have found the special thing they are supposed to do in life. I am struggling with finding my own. What makes me unique and how do I know when I have found my special thing?
-Looking For It in Chicago
DEAR LOOKING FOR IT IN CHICAGO: Every person is someone special and every person was made to do something special in life. I’m actually happy you’re at this point where you want to make your life count. Few people arrive at this stage where they actually begin to ask themselves what it is they are supposed to do in life.
What you are really searching for is purpose. Purpose is something that everyone has. Purpose brings meaning and significance to your life. It is the reason for which something is done or the intention for which something exists. When you find what you are made to do or what you enjoy doing, you will have found your “special thing.”
Here are three things that only you have:
1. You are the only person who has YOUR life. God gave YOU a life that only you can live. No one else can live your life for you.
2. You have special talents, skills, and abilities that are specific to you. No one can do what you can do the exact way that you can do it. You are not a duplicate. You are a unique creation.
3. You have a creative mind and the ability to conceive new ideas and bring them into reality. You are powerful and you can use your power to change the world.
All three of these things are specific to you and this is what makes you unique, special, and different from every other person on earth. No one has your life, your talents, your skill set, or your mind exactly like you have it. When you realize this, you can find the thing you love to do, focus on it, and pursue it with all your might.
One of my favorite psychiatrists, Viktor Frankl, said something interesting about vocation or one’s purpose in life. I think you will find it inspiring. He said, “Everyone has his own specific vocation in life…Therein he cannot be replaced nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.”